HAVING attended many funerals, I am always struck by the camaraderie that overshadows the sadness of the day.
People love to reminisce and remember the good times that are part of our past; memories that we cling to with happiness and fondness. It is always a joy to meet “old” friend who we haven’t seen for years. Tears soon give way to laughter as people hug and promise to keep in touch. Celebrating a person’s life and remembering the past are much more effective and positive ways to mourn the passing of a loved one.
Life in our 21st century is mega busy and many families become so embroiled in their daily lives that they seldom have time to get together apart from weddings, christenings and funerals! Online social networking services are great for keeping people informed, but, really, how effective is a hug from a computer? Everyone needs a hug, but, for some people, these aren’t freely given.
At a recent family funeral, as I watched everyone cheerfully blethering, my thoughts drifted to some youngsters I know who don’t have “happy family lives”. They have lived in foster care for most of their lives, usually through no fault of their own, and while, the homes are lovely, it isn’t the same as being at home with your own family. It is little wonder that some of these children grow up with resentment and distrust.
Many have moved from placement to placement and haven’t had the security that other young people have had. How can they be expected to have the same outlook on life and conform to the ideals of society? Look beyond what they say and do and you’ll find some lost souls who just need a hug.
Jesus loved all the children who came to him. He didn’t send them away because they were a bit wild...neither do I. Do you?
St Margaret’s & St Ninan’s